Gina Barreca is not bitter about the way Sarah Palin played the "Cute Hockey Mom" card, but she wonders why a woman like Hillary Clinton still has to worry about her highlights while deciding whether or not to bail out Wall Street. She's still confused, years later, about why Anne Bancroft, thirty-six when "The Graduate "was filmed, was cast as "the older woman." In "It's Not That I'm Bitter,."., Barreca ponders these questions and many others by giving women a hilarious antidote for the toxic "musts" they've been fed over the centuries. In essays that mull everything from the horror of chin hairs to why the "glass ceiling" is better described as a thick layer of men, Barreca tells women to stop believing the lies and conquer the world---and she does it with a sharp wit, good shoes and remarkably little eye cream.